
Stormy Daniels walked from her car to the Lincoln statue on the grounds of the Illinois State Capitol, gave her brief prepared remarks and left without taking questions. She was protesting the “pole tax” (Live Adult Entertainment Facility Surcharge Act), which strip clubs pay to help fund rape crisis centers. She said, “Rape crisis centers that exist primarily to help young women should be funded by the entire community, not through a tax that falls ultimately on the backs of young women. Illinois’ Pole Tax incorrectly connects adult entertainment to rape, as though strip clubs cause rape. Though the hypocrites, zealots and prudes of the world would like you to believe that there is a connection, it simply isn’t true. Funding rape crisis centers by taxing strippers – mostly young women, often young mothers – is cowardice, plain and simple.”
The protest was sponsored by Deja Vu Services, Inc. Stormy Daniels was hired as a corporate spokesperson for Deja Vu last fall. A press release announcing her visit states, “Deja Vu felt that Stormy’s wide appeal, understanding and communication skills would be a great addition to their public relations and lobbying efforts.” Deja Vu calls itself the worldwide leader in adult entertainment and adult retail stores with 200 locations in 40 states and 6 countries, 4,500 employees, 180,000 contracted entertainers and 150,000 patrons daily.
That could have been my story about Stormy Daniels coming to Springfield, But I wanted to report more than that. After a long career in state government, I started freelance writing. It keeps me connected in the community. I meet interesting people and learn something from every story. I’ve written about health and fitness, the environment, local philanthropy, museums, local businesses, community leaders, the arts, women’s organizations, interesting people and more. My topics are eclectic, but I never dreamed I would write about Stormy Daniels.
I first learned Stormy Daniels was coming to Springfield from someone in my Rotary Club, which happens to be an excellent source for stories. I was intrigued about trying to interview her. I emailed her press contact and was told she wouldn’t be doing interviews. I read her book, Full Disclosure, cover to cover.
She had three appearances on March 22, the first at the State Capitol to protest the Live Adult Entertainment Facility Surcharge Act, a book-signing in the afternoon at Deja Vu and an evening performance. I made it to
two out of three. I have a feeling that she appears more vulnerable
speaking before a cadre of reporters than performing on a stage.
After
reading her book, I was even more interested in interviewing her. I
called and talked to the manager of Deja Vu, Duane Patterson, and
continued to email Stormy PR. I talked to Patterson at the State
Capitol, and I showed up at Deja Vu early to be first in line for the
book signing. Stormy was friendly enough at her book signing, but not
available for an interview and pointed to her PR manager.
I
talked to her PR manager, and he was willing to take my questions by
email. At 4:30 a.m. on Saturday, March 23, he sent me the following
answers from Stormy to three of my questions.
What would you most like people to know about you?
“That
I always try to do the right thing, I’m a good mom and a loyal friend,
and there’s so much more to me than the infamous 90 seconds everyone
keeps asking about. And my name is STORMY, goddamnit. Stop calling me
Stephanie!” What’s the biggest misconception about Stormy Daniels?
What’s the diff erence between the real Stormy Daniels and the person we
all read about in the media?
“Contrary
to what keeps getting repeated by lazy reporters, I was never retired,
never a ‘former pornstar,’ I had an active and successful career that I
loved before the media frenzy about my unremarkable 90 seconds with
Donald Trump engulfed my life. That I never wanted the Trump story to
come out, and I only spoke out after I got sick of others trying to
bully me into lying for them. And that Stormy really is my real name. No one calls me
Stephanie except annoying asshole reporters and people who want to
pretend like they know me but really don’t. Call me Stormy. That’s my
name.”
What are your aspirations for your daughter?
“That she fulfills her own aspirations for herself. That she lives a happy, healthy, successful life.”
She
didn’t answer my question about the impact of her difficult childhood
and all the adults who failed her. Nor how the notoriety surrounding her
relationship with Trump has impacted her life. Or, whether she watched
Michael Cohen’s recent testimony before Congress. And, how she feels
about not voting in the last election and what she would tell others
about voting. But her book, Full Disclosure, written with book collaborator Kevin Carr O’Leary, provides interesting insights.
Full Disclosure isn’t
for everyone. It would be a lot shorter if all the colorful words were
removed, especially the one that has become common in today’s vernacular
but is still shocking and abhorrent to many. However, there’s a lot
more to her story, and I’m convinced she is a lot smarter than most
people think. The book tells her unlikely journey of growing up in a
dysfunctional home environment to becoming a porn star, writer and
director with numerous awards. And it tells how, due to a chance
encounter with a famous businessman at a high-profile golf tournament,
she became a problem for the president of the United States. Her story
would make a good movie script.
She’s
someone very comfortable in her own skin and her profession and
accomplishments in the adult entertainment industry. She is proud of
certain body parts, which she affectionately calls Thunderbolt and
Lightning. She knows that people judge her for her profession and her
looks and often presume she is dumb. There’s credible evidence that
she’s not.
The first
107 pages reveal how Stephanie Gregory became the acclaimed Stormy
Daniels, porn star, script-writer and movie director. Reading about the
first 27 years of her life, we hear how she happened to meet Donald
Trump at the American Century Celebrity Golf Championship at Lake Tahoe,
where she was representing her employer, Wicked Pictures. She
acknowledges that some readers will skip the first 100-plus pages and
jump right to this point in her story. She says, “My life is a lot more
interesting than an encounter with Donald Trump. But I get it. Still, of
all the people I had sex with, why couldn’t the world obsess over one
of the hot ones?”
Stormy
Daniels has had no charmed life. There are plenty of scientific studies
about the impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences, known as ACEs, and
the difficulties individuals face as a result. If she took the ACEs
test, she would likely get a high score. Stormy says her mother was
planning for a boy, becoming pregnant even though her husband didn’t
want children. Stormy was supposed to be Stephan Andrew but instead was
named Stephanie Ann Gregory, born March 17, 1979, in Baton Rouge,
Louisiana. She describes her father as smart, an architectural engineer,
and they traveled all over for his job. She says she adored him, and he
barely acknowledged her existence.
They
moved back to Baton Rouge when she was four and about to start school.
Her father left and moved to Alaska, and she saw him only occasionally
after that. She says her father leaving broke her mother’s heart and
that her mother became an entirely different person, never cleaning the
house or doing dishes again. The picture she paints of the house with
its roaches and rats is not pretty. She says her mom dated a “parade of
horrible guys” who were just losers. Her mother would disappear for days
at a time and leave eight-year-old Stormy alone. When Stormy was nine,
her friend’s next-door neighbor sexually assaulted her. This continued
over two years. She became the victim as she tried to protect her
younger friend from the abuse. She never sought help from an adult to
stop the abuse because she thought it would affirm what people thought
of her. “I suppose that’s what a serial abuser counts on – the notion
that kids blame themselves,” she says. “If you didn’t tell the first
time, it’s harder to tell the second time.” Later she met two men who
provided a stronger support system for her than her biological parents,
and she refers to them affectionately as her “two gay dads.” She says
they, her chosen family, are the ones who have done right by her.
In
spite of all of this, Stormy was a good student, accepted into a magnet
school and graduated with straight As. While still in high school, she
could no longer tolerate her home environment and moved out. One evening
when she was 17 and out with friends, she did a guest performance at
Cinnamon’s strip club and earned $85 in nine minutes. She accepted a job
working weekends, and this was the beginning of her long career in the
adult live entertainment industry.
She
worked other clubs, discovered the benefits of being a “feature”
dancer, made connections and kept moving up. She didn’t drink and saw
the consequences of girls who
did. She also was aware that girls with breast implants got more tips,
and she says her breast implants were the best $2,200 she ever spent.
Connections with another feature dancer led her to Los Angeles in 2002
to work in porn movies with Wicked Pictures. Not satisfied to be just an
actress in porn movies, she became a contract star, took on writing and
became a director. She’s won numerous awards in her industry throughout
her long career. The name Stormy came from a name associated with a
member of the Mötley Crüe band, and Daniels from an ad for Jack Daniels –
a Southern favorite.
The
infamous encounter with Donald Trump took place in July 2006. He
invited her to dinner, but there was no dinner. Apparently there wasn’t
much that impressed her about that encounter, except the potential
opportunity to be on The Apprentice. Once that opportunity fizzled out she didn’t think about him much again.
In
2009 a group of people drafted her to run for U.S. Senator from
Louisiana against incumbent David Vitter. He was running on a “family
values” platform, but his name had turned up on a list of a Washington,
D.C., madam. Stormy thought he was a hypocrite. She doesn’t like
hypocrites or liars. Her campaign slogan was “Stormy Daniels: Screwing
People Honestly.” She says her endgame was to inspire someone more
qualified to run, while raising issues she thought were important. She
dropped out of the race after her campaign manager’s car was blown up.
“One of my lines on the tour was ‘Politics can’t be any dirtier of a job
than the one I am already in.’ But I was wrong,” says Stormy. “....just
like the entertainment business but with way more repercussions, it’s
about who you know and it’s about money.”
This
was not the only time Stormy was concerned for her safety. As the story
about her relationship with Trump was unfolding in the media, some were
encouraging her to sell her story, while others were threatening what
would happen if she did. Complicating this was the fact she had not told
her husband, Glen, the full story of her relationship with Trump. When
offered money to not tell her story, she says it was a “win.” She wanted
to put it all behind her and not be worried about the safety of her
family. After the people in the middle took their cut, $80,000 was
deposited into her husband’s bank account. She says signing the
nondisclosure agreement was about putting it all behind her; if she were
greedy she could have sold her story for lots more money.
But
it wasn’t behind her. She tells her side of the Michael Cohen story and
the media frenzy that surrounded it. She believed she had held up her
end of the contract and they had not. She felt bullied and was tired of
being made to look like a liar. She wanted a lawyer to tell her side of
the story. She hired Michael Avenatti. And body guards. She was on 60 Minutes and Saturday Night Live. She says she only spoke out after being bullied by others to lie for them.
I likely never would have read Full Disclosure if
Stormy Daniels hadn’t come to Springfield. I’m not likely to recommend
it to book clubs. But I’m glad I read it. I suspect people will find
many things in the book shocking. Her language. The number of men she’s
been with. Her mother. Childhood experiences. Descriptions of filming a
porn movie. Gaining 93 pounds when she was pregnant. Making her husband
do porn as a condition for having a baby…so if they ever split up he
couldn’t use that against her in court. Perhaps the least shocking of
all, however, is the description of her relationship with Donald Trump.
Karen Ackerman Witter is a freelance writer who enjoys writing about interesting people, places and issues.