We encourage DCFS to develop a new track that responds to lockouts, preventing the tragedy of “second-time foster children.” DCFS has ignored parent requests for joint problem-solving meetings. Post-adopt parents desire to be part of the solution. During one of our court cases, the judge scolded the attorneys, caseworkers and CASA, who spoke to us as abusive parents: “There is nobody bad here! There are no criminals. There is no crime. Do you all get it?” If they “got it,” we wouldn’t be sitting in the same seats as birth parents who abused our children prior to the adoption.
Toni Hoy is an adoptive parent and parent advocate and a member of the board of directors of the National Alliance on Mental Illness for the Barrington area.